Meeting the Savage Dan with Love
Christopher St., Sunday June 26th, NY Pride 2011
Yesterday at the very end of NYC Pridefest I and my husband Rocco met sex(y) columnist and gay media pundit Dan Savage, at the end of the parade. We shook hands over a barricade and spoke maybe 90 seconds. On second thought, it may have been more like a minute, but it seemed longer perhaps because I found it a very pleasant, positive, meaningful moment.
Dan had for his Stranger Pride column this week even tried to unpack some of the conflict he’s had with bisexual activists.
In our encounter, Dan appeared to be quite sensitive of the animosity toward him from the bi community, and willing to admit he’s made errors in his writing about bisexuality, and that in reacting to the very negative ad hominem attacks from certain of his readers he made a misstep with this. He regrets it but seems eager to make it right.
He agreed when I said I felt he was trying to come to a better understanding of bisexuality and bi people and that he actually wants to reach out to the bi community.
I offered him copies of my bi books and BAON. Obviously he cannot travel with books, but he thanked me for them and asked me to send them to him in Seattle, and for reaching out without rancor to him. I feel reasonably sure that Dan wants to do some sincere research and then interact with at least one bi activist.
I will make sure that Dan will follow up on this. Personally, I feel that he will likely apologize, correct his statements, and eventually become a fabulous bi ally, but in a world of endless possibilities, you never know. He deserves to be given the opportunity and time to fix it.
To my bi activist sisters and brothers I say: let’s celebrate our other spectacular victories and focus our defensive energies on the people who are really trying to hurt us. I am asking everyone to relax and for now suspend further hostile or antagonistic communications to and about him.
Watch this space for updates today with further details of the meeting and my follow up. Thanks, and a very happy Bi Pride to everyone.